I don’t remember my mother every really being in a bad mood. She was there for me when I needed her, but I was afraid of her and respected her, all at the same time. To this day, I have no idea how she struck such an amazing balance of having me trust her, but at the same time, knowing that she wasn’t my friend, she was my parent and I was her only child.
I can only hope to be that kind of mother for my boys. I want to show them that I can follow my dreams and be a mother, all at the same time. That sacrifices are necessary, but family is and should always be the priority. When I was growing up, my mother owned a travel agency in Washington Heights, and worked really hard to maintain it and she is still a travel agent to this day. I tell her, “Mami, retire!” And her response is, “Why, if I love what I do?”
So because of her, I have fought to find that. To find what it is I love and find a way to do it. For a long time I didn’t, but I am finally at a place where I love my job, and I am giving my children the example of a woman who works hard and loves what she does, just like my mother did.
I read this on Pinterest, and it really made me think…
Instead of me running around all the time, busy and in a bad mood, wouldn’t it be better for me to show my boys a mother who tries her best to be happy? It’s not always possible, but seeing this quote really helped flip a switch in my head when I am about to have one of those funk moments.
But we’re all just trying to figure it all out, aren’t we?
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers, who make the effort, in any way, to be the best mothers they can be!