I just had a pretty busy weekend celebrating my baby boy’s birthday. I have really put myself on the back burner and it shows! I preach self love all the time, but this month, I have NOT been practicing what I preach.
I am very grateful for my “mommy friends.” I can text them and know that they totally get it when I can’t function enough to return a text within a few minutes. They know what it’s like to feel like you have a million and one things to do, because you do. Not that my friends without kids don’t know what that’s like. I remember having a million and one responsibilities then, too. But now, I am responsible for two other people and their well being. And that’s hard! Really hard!
Put on top of that list, taking care of yourself. Yeah. That usually falls at the bottom. Getting your hair done, your nails done, reading a book, taking a class (whatever class it is you want to take: salsa, painting, yoga, whatever!!) But, it is so, so important to put yourself on your to do list. Because when you don’t, bad stuff happens. Case in point:
When you don’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of anyone else? If you don’t take care of yourself, you get sick. Any moms reading this can definitely agree with me. How many times have you been so crazy about doing things around the house, for the kids, for work, for school, for your parents, for your significant other, that you have gotten sick over it. You’re not sleeping, or eating right. You may not be sick, like a flu or cold, but little by little, that just can’t be good for your health.There are lots of bad consequences for not getting enough sleep. Some studies have even shown that not sleeping is as bad as smoking.
Now, by sick, there are a lot variations for what I mean. Maybe it’s stressed, resentful, you get a cold, you eat unhealthy food because it’s the most convenient (guilty, right here!), or worse, you feel depressed.
My mom friends and I saw “Bad Moms” this summer and it was seriously the funniest movie I’ve seen in a really long time. Mostly, because it really depicted (in a funny more exaggerated way) what it is like to be a mom today. The pressure for perfection is REAL!
The best advice I got as a new mom was to make time for myself. Everyone wants you to center your life around your new baby, and yes, that is extremely important and I agree with that. But you don’t have many people telling you how to take care of yourself now that your world has turned upside down.
I think finding an hour a day to do something for you will keep you feeling “normal.” And by normal I mean, feeling like yourself, the self there was before becoming a mom.
Let me know what you do to stay sane as a busy mom.
Here are a list of things that I do, and maybe you can do, too:
- Take a long shower/bath and pampering yourself
- Get a mani/pedi
- Get your hair done
- Go for a walk
- Go food shopping or to the mall (ALONE!)
- Shut the door to your room and watch something that you’ve wanted to watch
- Read – a book, magazine, twitter, Facebook, instagram
- Shop online (this one could be dangerous, but if you can do it with self control, go for it)
- Take that class I was talking about
- Call a friend/family member/your mom to vent and talk or catch up